Dear Body

Dear Body

One Month Ago:

Dear Body,

I’m trying to listen carefully to you, but I’m still not understanding what you need from me. You told me before about needing more restorative sleep and I’m glad we’ve got that sorted out. I know there’s more, though. Please be really, really clear with me about what you need so I can take appropriate action.

Sincerely, Me

 

Three Weeks Ago:

“It would be worth checking your blood sugar again,” Dresden told me one morning, shortly after I woke up.

“Oh?” I’d been checking it occasionally in the mornings for a fasting number. It had been hanging out in the low 120s for years, my HbA1C test results keeping me in the prediabetes range for over two decades after increasingly severe cases of gestational diabetes with each pregnancy.

I grabbed my test kit and took a reading. 150 mg/dL. That can’t be right. I chose a test strip out of a new container and tried again. 152 mg/dL. Oy.

Maybe it was a fluke, a one-off. Or maybe not. I began testing two hours after every meal and taking a fasting reading every morning for the next several days. My after-meal numbers were largely fine, but my fasting numbers were all over 145 mg/dL.

I made a lab appointment to get my HbA1C checked. It was time, anyway.

Twenty-four hours, a high random blood glucose reading (nearly the same as my own test kit reading), and an A1C of 6.5% later, I made an appointment with my doctor.

 

Two Weeks Ago:

“You now have type 2 diabetes,” my doctor said. “And celiac disease. And your blood pressure medicine, even at the increased dosage, isn’t working.”

I nodded, knowing all this but not thrilled about hearing it said aloud.

“I’d like to add a second blood pressure medication, as well as add another diabetes medication to your metformin,” she continued.

From her pre-appointment email, I knew we’d be talking about this, so I’d done quite a bit of reading. I knew from my own health history that adding a calcium channel blocker was the best second medication to add for my blood pressure and that a glucagon-like peptide-1 receptor agonist (GLP-1) was the best additional diabetes medication.

I told my doctor as much, adding, “All of the other diabetes medications have weight gain as a side effect. I really don’t want to add any more weight.”

“You don’t?” she bantered back.

“I really don’t. In fact, I’d be happy to find someone else to give my extra weight to. Is that possible?”

“I’m afraid not. Losing it is your best option.”

“I’m worried about losing it,” I told her. “If I lose it, someone might find it and try to return it to me. How about I just release it back into the universe to be recycled as some other energy?”

“I like that plan,” my doctor said, finishing writing a prescription. “And this will help.”

 

One Week Ago:

The new/added blood pressure medicine is taking a bit of adjustment. It makes me very sleepy and dizzy, so I take it at night, but it still leaves me a bit off in the morning. Two very interesting things: my resting pulse is now easily 10+ bpm lower than it was before the added medicine and what had felt (or I had interpreted) as constant low-grade anxiety seems to be gone. Now I’m wondering if I could sense my higher pulse and that felt like anxiety. It’s certainly possible. At any rate, I feel calmer now.

My new diabetes medication is a weekly injection. Among the side effects—or benefits—it slows gastric emptying and decreases appetite. No kidding! I’m now eating one-third to one-half of what I was last week because I feel full sooner and am less hungry throughout the day. Its effect on my blood sugar began working immediately. My fasting blood glucose after the first injection was 95 mg/dL. My fasting blood sugar hasn’t been this healthy in over 22 years.

 

Today:

I’m still getting used to the new medications, but the blood pressure medication’s side effects are slowly easing. I still feel calm more often. I don’t have that feeling like I’m going to jump out of my skin. I’m delighted that my stomach no longer feels hunger as often. My acid reflux has lessened considerably. I can go an entire day with my blood sugar readings never going higher than the 90s. I’ve released five pounds. I’ve had no other side effects.

My way of eating remains a personalized combination of gluten-free, lower-carb, anti-inflammatory, and low caloric density (read: fruits and vegetables especially).

It’s all taking more energy at the moment to pay attention to all of these things and monitor my health, but I’m now aware that my body spoke loudly so that I could take action. These medications may be temporary until I reverse my diabetes and hypertension or they may be long-term. I’m okay with either one.

An overwhelming majority of my first- and second-degree biological family of origin had diabetes, hypertension, and heart and/or kidney disease. Many died from untreated or poorly controlled diabetes, leading to renal and heart failure. I refuse to follow in their footsteps. My genetics may have made insulin resistance, diabetes, and high blood pressure a matter of “when,” not “if,” but I have the power and the resources to manage and potentially even reverse them in a way that my body will accept.

For the record, my body has already rejected several other modalities of healing. Further, I did not know that one person could be allergic to so many essential oils, Chinese herbs, and other supplements. Even with all its faults, Western medicine is working for me right now.

 

This Afternoon:

Dear Body,

Thank you for speaking to me so clearly. You seem to be much happier now with more medical support. I will continue to listen carefully and will do my utmost best not to make any of my lab or test results mean anything about my worth. I appreciate you housing and guarding me through this lifetime, and I want to take good care of you. You, too, are one of my guides.

With love, Me

Talking with Dresden About Ukraine

Talking with Dresden About Ukraine

A Conversation With Dresden, My Primary Guide

A Conversation With Dresden, My Primary Guide

“Let’s talk a bit about your focus as you move forward with Soul Guides,” Dresden prompted as I prepared to do some editing on the next book.

“O…kay.” I was suddenly concerned. “Is something wrong?”

“Not at all. You looked up some of our older conversations about how much of our relationship should go public and I want to make sure your understanding of your growth and healing is clear.”

“Well, yeah,” I said. “In April 2006, you said you’d ‘strongly advise against’ my making any public pronouncements about being able to talk with you and Michael and every other guide and messenger who shows up. Then in September 2013, we talked about my motivation for writing a book incorporating our conversations.”

“We did,” Dresden confirmed. “And what was your reason for not writing it?”

“I didn’t want anyone to think I was using your status—not to mention Michael’s—in order to elevate myself.”

“Hmm.”

“Are you remembering something else?” I asked.

“I’m remembering that you gave that reason initially, but then after we talked, you understood your deeper reason. Which was?”

“Oh. Umm… If I accepted my relationship with you all as true, then I had to accept the things you said about me too. As long as I could hide our relationship, I could hide the things you told and showed me about myself.”

“Precisely,” Dresden said. “And by hiding what you learned about yourself, what were you also hiding?”

“The real me.”

“And what have I been telling you for the past fifteen years or so?”

I looked down at my hands. “To stop hiding.”

“Back in 2006,” Dresden said, “you were not ready to come out and be your full self. You had a lot of healing left to do. In 2013, you began entertaining the idea of writing one or more books involving our relationship, but you had more fear than drive at the time. Since then, you’ve done significant healing and you’ve come out publicly about our relationship in general because you see now how it can help others.”

“I’m still a little worried that people will either think I’m attention-seeking or crazy.”

“They might. That doesn’t make their opinions accurate.”

“No, but they could make life difficult.”

“Could they?” Dresden asked. “Really?”

“Well, they could bad-mouth me all over the internet. Dox me.”

“They could do that,” Dresden said. “But could they alter your relationship with me or Michael or any of your other guides?”

I snorted. “No.”

“What about your relationship with yourself? Could they change that?”

I thought about that, about how secure I am in myself now. “No.”

“Could they alter your relationship with your friends? Your partner and children?”

“No.”

“Could they take away your home or your livelihood?”

“Not easily, no.”

Dresden came closer. “Then why are you giving them so much power?”

I nodded, understanding. “They’re like the mosquitoes that keep me inside on a beautiful summer evening.”

“Did you know,” Dresden said with humor in his voice, “that your resources—including me and your other guides—make for an extremely effective bug spray?”

I laughed and shook my head. “Okay, I get it. And maybe by sharing this, others who are avoiding mosquitoes can avail themselves of their own effective bug spray.”

“And why do you want them to have that?”

“Because I know what it feels like to be covered in pain. And I don’t want anyone to have to feel that way.”

“For you remember that you were a slave in the land of Egypt,” Dresden said.

“I mean, not literally,” I said, confused.

“You want to help others because you know what it’s like not to have what you’re offering,” Dresden said. “You know what it’s like to be a stranger, to be a slave to your pain, and you remember that you were brought out of that narrow place, so now you seek to help others.”

“You just made what I’m doing very, very Jewish.”

“It’s not?” Dresden asked, feigning surprise.

“Put that way, I guess it is. I guess I hadn’t framed it that way before.”

“Then you’re welcome.”

“Thanks for being my bug spray too,” I added. “Can I call you DresDEET now?”

“No.”

“But it flows off the tongue so well.”

“No. Even my metaphors stop before anyone’s name is changed.”

“So,” I shrugged, “I guess I’m going to slap on some bug spray and take us public.”

“Indeed. Go enjoy the beautiful summer evening.”

“Umm… It’s February. In Minnesota. It feels like two below zero.”

I felt Dresden bump my right shoulder. “Did you know that your resources, including your guides, can provide exceptional warmth?”

“Is there anything you can’t provide?”

“I can’t provide relief to your bladder. Go. Now.”

Why I Reject 3D-5D Ascension Theology

Why I Reject 3D-5D Ascension Theology

In 2021, I saw a lot of posts, articles, and other references to what was touted as the “shift” from “3D to 5D” and that it was a kind of ascension. The not-exactly-scientific explanation goes like this: Humanity has been living in a three-dimensional world up to this point (evidenced by fear and anger), and people are “waking up” to the “truth” and are going through or have gone through some sort of spiritual transformation and are now living in five dimensions, where fear and anger have been replaced by love and joy. And it’s their job to wake up everyone else so that all of humanity can ascend to this “5D living” and usher in an age of harmony and love.

Sounds lovely on its face, though I do wonder where the unicorns and rainbows are in all this. And puppies. Can’t forget the puppies.

I thought at first I understood the difference between 3D and 5D. After all, one of my guides taught me back in the early 1980s about the difference between “reality with a lowercase r,” meaning the physical world that we can see, hear, touch, taste, and smell, and “Reality with an uppercase R,” meaning the world where everything is energy that vibrates at different frequencies.

Yes, one of my guides was teaching me a few of the basics of quantum physics before I even knew what “quantum” was. Or, really, “physics” for that matter. I mean, I was twelve.

So I thought maybe 3D meant reality and 5D meant Reality. I can get behind that.

But that turns out not to be how most people are using it. And how they are using it is a far cry from harmony, love, much less unicorns, rainbows, and puppies.

Before I get into explaining how most people are using these terms and why I reject it (remember, I’m also a suspense writer), I wanted to understand what my guides thought of this whole concept. Maybe I was the one noping out due to my own issues.

One thing many of the 3D-5D Shift folks claim is that this shift is new. It’s going on right now, the kids being born these days are allegedly already living in 5D, and all those who are considered lightworkers (though this term isn’t well-defined) are part of the shift and tasked with “waking up” the rest of the world. It’s not clear if this includes all generations (even Boomers) or if it’s only the special people who have somehow already made this shift to 5D no matter how old or young their chronological age.

As I do with any assertion that doesn’t immediately ring true in my own energy and body, I checked in with my guides. The response I received was this:

“This is no different than it has always been. There have always been those who come to teach and guide. Such intentions, however, do not make them more special than others, for you are all sparks of the divine, whether you are aware of it or not.”

When I asked about this alleged task of waking everyone else up to this new way of being, I received this response:

“Beware of hierarchy. This is the danger for those who refer to themselves as awakened in contrast to those they deem asleep. If such categorizations elevate them above others, then they are not seeing the true divine nature of every soul. Not every soul that incarnates intends to remember the truths about their Home during their incarnation. Some immerse themselves in the physical world and its dualities and extremes for other, equally important experiences. This does not render them in need of the teachings of those who have come to teach.”

This made more sense to me: whatever this shift is, however it might exist, is not new and it’s not for everyone.

But if it’s not new, then how old is it?

Time to go digging. I started with Amazon.

Need a TL;DR summation without all the history and sources? Go here.

The Origins of 3D-5D

The earliest mention of the fifth dimension in book titles/subtitles (not counting novels, math/science textbooks, policy programs, or the musical group by this name) that I could find was Journeys into the Fifth Dimension, published in 1975 by Helena E. Ruhnau, who also authored another book in 1982 titled Light from the Fifth Dimension (The Heaven World). Consistent with this title, other books from the twentieth century also equate 3D to hell and 5D to heaven.

Further, in Light from the Fifth Dimension, Ruhnau identifies herself as “a spiritual messenger for The Great White Brotherhood,” to “bring about the Divine Plan,” and “the warnings and prophesy given by the Christ are being fulfilled” because “we are at the culmination of the Ages.”

Sounds a lot like this 3D to 5D shift. But the book and the terminology are now forty years old. So, not new. And definitely with a Christian lens, so this book is not for the six and half billion non-Christians around the world.

Also, did your eyebrows raise at the mention of “The Great White Brotherhood?” Mine did. I’ll return to this shortly. There’s more cringey stuff in the book’s description, including a reference to recognizing “inferior and psychic spirits.”

While I was wading through books (including out-of-print titles) that referenced this 3D-5D shift or ascension, a few authors of more recent books stood out as having multiple titles on the topic. Of note were Patricia Cota-Robles who in 2005 also wrote about The Violet Flame (I’ll return to this term later too) and Maureen J. St. Germain, who developed what she’s calling MerKaBa in the 1990s and defines it as “a rotating, geometric, crystalline Light-Energy field that extends around the body” and “was used to create this Universe.” Her work also includes what she calls the Christ Consciousness Grid, again implying a Christian lens.

What she doesn’t seem to acknowledge is that the original merkabah/merkavah (מרכבה) is a school of Jewish mysticism—a precursor to Jewish Kabbalah, in fact—and is more than two thousand years old. The Hebrew word merkabah means “chariot,” as in the chariots of Roman times but also the chariot in the prophet Ezekiel’s vision.

Many of these authors who write about this 3D-5D ascension also overtly support or make references to tenets of Theosophy, a religion (as determined by religious scholars) founded by Helena Petrovna Blavatsky (1831-1891) in 1875 and based on her writings, which borrow from numerous other religions (especially Hinduism and Buddhism) as well as Freemasonry, Rosicrucianism, and the occult. From Ancient Wisdom Revived: A History of the Theosophical Movement (1980), Bruce F. Campbell writes that Theosophy teaches that there are a core group of “Masters” throughout history whose job it is to guard the world’s ancient spiritual truths and represent “The Great White Brotherhood” (there it is again!) or White Lodge, a secret society that guides and informs humanity’s evolution. They also fight against the “forces of dark” or the Black Lodge or Black Magicians, which seeks to uphold the status quo or keep humanity “in a state of ignorance, bewilderment, and running after false gods.”

Now, those knowledgeable about Theosophy say that “white” refers to divine light and “brotherhood” is all-inclusive, and neither should be confused with race or gender. As I can find nothing to refute that statement, I’m willing to accept it as simply an unfortunate name that would never fly these days. However, that’s not to say that it can’t be used in a racist way by others, no matter how the Theosophists think of it.

The philosopher Jules Evans writes that some did take Blavatsky’s writings about how “the ‘sacred spark’ is missing” in some ethnic groups and developed those ideas into “aggressively racist theories” even though Blavatsky herself was not a white supremacist.

Blavatsky was also co-editor of the magazine Lucifer, which debuted in 1887, and was designed to “bring light to the hidden things of darkness.”

One of the most well-known “masters” identified by Theosophists is Count Saint Germain (1710-1784), credited with the Age of Aquarius and associated with the seventh ray of light, also known as the Violet Flame. (I did say I’d mention this again.) St. Germain (aka Master Rákóczi) is often referred to as an ascended master by Theosophists and believed to be a type of superhuman with the “ability to teleport, levitate, [and] walk through walls.” Numerous Theosophists and other practitioners of esoteric or occult traditions have claimed to have met him (or his spirit), even as recently as 2014.

Guy Ballard (1878-1939) is one of those who claims to have not only met St. Germain but, indeed, to have channeled a series of books dictated by St. Germain. Ballard, along with his wife Edna (1886-1971), founded what they called the “I AM” Movement, later expanded into the Ascended Master Teachings based on that same series of books claimed to be dictated by St. Germain. The Ascended Master Teachings evolved into a religious offshoot of Theosophy and is a precursor of the New Age (spiritual practices that began in the 1970s) movement. The “I AM” Movement considers themselves Christian because one of the most important ascended masters (and another person from whom Ballard claimed to have received dictated messages) is Jesus.

All of these terms—The Great White Brotherhood, the violet flame, St. Germain, I AM, and Ascended Master Teachings—are sprinkled throughout descriptions of this 3D-5D ascension.

But wait, there’s more.

 

Superhumans and Extraterrestrials

The “I AM” Movement, among others, claims that the ascended masters (but only those they have identified) are more than human—are superhuman or even supernatural—beings, and that through specific meditations, prayers, use of sacred geometry, and summoning the Violet Flame (generated by the I AM Presence) and related closely to the Christian Holy Spirit, an average person can “ascend” or raise their vibrations/energy/body to a higher dimension of existence (5D), similar to the ascension of Jesus. To do so properly and without danger, the I AM Movement stipulates following Ballard’s instructions carefully. Another way of thinking about this is “entering Heaven alive.” (Later, Edna Ballard walked back these statements and said entering the higher dimension was only done after physical death.)

This idea of becoming superhuman or even supernatural while still in human form is a common thread found in numerous spiritual and occult practices and books, including that of chiropractor Dr. Joe Dispenza in his book Becoming Supernatural (2017). Becoming Supernatural also mentions 3D and 5D, although Dispenza references it much the way my guides explained it to me (reality vs. Reality) all those years ago, and the only obvious overlap with the 3D-5D “ascension” is the use of sacred geometry to evoke mystical experiences.

Another strong believer in the idea that humans can become superhuman was Aleister Crowley, born Edward Alexander Crowley (1875-1947), who was a member of the secret society Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn, which focused on study and practice of the occult. The Golden Dawn and The Great White Brotherhood co-existed, and some people may have been members of both, but the organizations were not related except in content. The “secret chiefs” of the Golden Dawn and the “masters” of Theosophy are arguably similar in nature.

Crowley founded the religion of Thelema in the early 1900s based on numerous esoteric and occult philosophies and practices. He also co-founded the A∴A∴ or Silver Star in 1907, dedicated to the perfection of the human being through magic, mysticism, and spiritual advancement. He also called himself the “Great Beast 666” and his work included psychedelic drugs and extreme sexual practices.

A separate yet related school of thought believes that some of these “ascended masters” or “secret chiefs” were not so much humans who achieved superhuman status but rather hybrids between humans and extraterrestrials and their descendants. A similar idea was the basis for Brad Steiger’s Gods of Aquarius (1976), where he argued that some people weren’t originally human at all but aliens who were born into human bodies, amnesiac to their extraterrestrial origins until they began to “wake up” to their purpose and mission on earth.

Proponents refer to these extra-terrestrials-living-as-humans as starseeds or star people. Those who claim to be such starseeds will state their origins as from the Pleiades, Arcturus, the center of the Earth, or other planets or solar systems. Their awakening to their cosmic origins comes through codes such as repeating numbers (e.g.: 11:11) and synchronicities. Many (though not all) also view society with high skepticism, believing that human governments are engaged in mind control, brainwashing, and attempting to physically degrade the starseeds’ abilities and DNA through Western medicine, specifically medications and vaccinations.

Personally, I think it’s incredibly arrogant to think that humans are the only intelligent life in the universe, so yes, I do believe in life on other planets, in other solar systems, somewhere. Do I think they’ve visited Earth? I don’t know. There’s certainly some still-classified information that makes me wonder.

Do I think there are people who were extraterrestrials born as human? I don’t know. I mean, I’ve had a cluster of darker freckles on my upper left arm my whole life that are in the same position as the visible stars of the Pleiades, but I don’t think that means I’m an alien in that way. I believe all of us came from a place of energy (Source) and incarnated as humans, so in that sense, we’re all aliens.

Edgar Cayce (1877-1945), a trance clairvoyant and an American contemporary of Crowley and Ballard, claimed to have made contact with Arcturians, who, he said, were from “the highest civilization in our galaxy.” He believed that Arcturians came to Earth to help humans raise their vibrations to the fifth density (5D living). One of the ways this ascension is allegedly accomplished is by eliminating all negative influences, thus giving birth to the “good vibes only” sentiment.

 

Conspirituality and Pastel QAnon

There is one more link to this 3D-5D ascension that troubles me deeply. Over time, those “negative influences” that Cayce talked about have come to mean not only emotions like fear and anger (the so-called 3D world), but also all the ways in which such ascension is allegedly thwarted by those in power (“forces of dark” but also “deep state”) through disinformation, mind control and brainwashing by the media, physical alterations through Western medicine, abuse, kidnapping, and even disappearances and murder.

In other words, the beliefs that came out of secret societies like Theosophy also have a shadow side of paranoia and a weakness for adopting conspiracy theories.

This weakness was exploited and subsequently exploded in 2017 by QAnon, a far-right cult that hailed former President Donald Trump as the hero who would expose such “dark forces” operating in positions of power. QAnon often used the term “the storm” to describe the polarization and conflict in society that would usher in “The Great Awakening.”

The Global Network on Extremism & Technology describes QAnon’s “Great Awakening” as “an assortment of a myriad of ideologies, beliefs, political statements, conspiracies, popular culture, and even creative fantasy, blended to produce a comprehensive alternative reality, which outrightly rejects and vilifies the current mainstream socio-political, economic, ideological, and cultural system.”

QAnon also began co-opting language that came from the New Age movement, which itself came from Ballard and before him, Blavatsky, through yoga teachers, wellness/nutrition and fitness coaches, holistic healers, and the spiritual community (as if there is one cohesive community), especially on Instagram. Marc-André Argentino, a PhD candidate at Concordia University in Canada, collected many of these Instagram posts, some of which have been deleted from their original accounts. He referred to this incursion as “Pastel QAnon.”

These Q followers, using the language often found in mysticism and spirituality, inundated social media with warnings about the threats to believers (“the awakened”) from the mainstream media, government, and the “deep state.” Such warnings often referred to the “red pill,” itself a reference to the movie The Matrix, in which the red pill would free Neo “from the enslaving control of the machine-generated dream world.”

This casting of media and government as evil is easily an echo to Blavatsky’s Black Magicians.

Other terms originally associated with New Age and/or Theosophical beliefs were now being used by QAnon believers often in connection with conspiracy theories (what was dubbed “conspirituality” by sociologists Charlotte Ward and David Voas in 2011) about the so-called deep state, mainstream media (MSM), and big pharma:

  • Company of Heaven
  • Beings of Light
  • New Earth
  • Light Alliance on Earth
  • Global Currency Reset
  • Authoritarian oppression
  • Luciferian
  • Illuminati
  • New World Order
  • Elites
  • Waking up/Awake
  • NESARA/GESARA (National Economic Security and Reformation Act) / Global Economic Security and Reformation Act)
  • Divine Alchemy (moving from carbon-based [3D] to crystalline-based [5D])
  • New paradigm/paradigm shift

Then, when SARS-CoV-2, the virus that causes COVID-19, exploded around the world, those same “Pastel QAnon” influencers expanded their repertoire to include anti-mask warnings, allegations that COVID-19 was the work of a secret, evil cabal (often an antisemitic term) in the government to prevent the Great Awakening, and even calls to violence that led to the January 6, 2021 insurrection.

 

What I found

I could continue—this rabbit hole is deep—but here is what my digging has unearthed:

  • The idea of moving from a 3D (anger/fear) world to a 5D (love/harmony) world is not new and advocates of it have been saying that it’s happening “right now” for well over a hundred years
  • The 3D-5D “ascension” is heavily based in Christianity even if the believers in such do not themselves identify as Christian
  • It creates a hierarchy of the advanced/awakened as endowed with abilities beyond that of those still asleep, who may believe themselves to be on the way to becoming superhuman
  • Some who believe themselves to be awakened and living in 5D may also believe that they are originally from another planet or solar system
  • There is a strong overlap between the 3D-5D shift/ascension and the use of specific meditations, prayers, incantations, magic, and occult practices to achieve that shift/ascension
  • Because of the overlap between Q followers and the spiritual, health, fitness, yoga, nutrition, and healing communities, many spiritual teachers, healers, and coaches are also Trump supporters and believe the Big Lie that Trump only lost the 2020 election due to widespread fraud (the courts and the states themselves disagree)
  • This overlap now also means that many spiritual teachers, healers, and coaches believe in conspiracy theories and have thrown in their lot with:
      • Anti-vax
      • Anti-mask
      • White supremacy
      • Antisemitism
      • Anti-LGBTQIA2S+
      • Predicting apocalyptic events (but ascending to 5D will “save” you)
      • Trying to convince others to adopt their beliefs, often by citing YouTube videos and blogs

That is why, when people refer to the 3D-5D shift/ascension, I get nervous. As a Queer Jew who is pro-vaccination, pro-mask, and pro-racial and gender equality, I am well aware that it may not be in my best interest or conducive to my safety to trust these people. It’s not my place to tell them not to believe what they believe, but it is my place to choose with whom I affiliate.

I can hear the arguments from the 3D-5D camp now: “Sheyna, you’re living in your fear. That’s 3D emotion. When you ascend to 5D, you won’t be afraid of us!” Uh-huh. That’s no different from you telling me that I’m going to hell unless I accept Jesus as my lord and savior. This is all just repackaged Christianity. And one thing my guides have been clear on is that religion is a human construct. That would make religion “3D” (and wow, does Christianity deliver on the fear part). You can’t espouse a 100-year-old theology heavily based on Christianity and then tell me it’s not also a human construct.

But even among those who believe in this 3D-5D shift/ascension who do not in any way believe in conspiracy theories or Q-supported disinformation, I still reject it based on its history. It’s a reworked Christian theology masquerading as New Age spirituality. It makes me think of an updated version of the Crusades. Or in the words my friend Nicole shared with me, “It’s recycled rapture bullshit.”

One last thing: there may be a few folks out there who really are using 3D-5D in the way that I originally thought it was, the way that my guides explained the difference between reality and Reality to me. If so, great! I’m on board with that idea. But maybe, given the history and now the blurred commixture with QAnon and conspiracy theories, consider using a different term.

 

Sources/links (in the order used):

https://www.amazon.com/Journeys-Fifth-Dimension-Helena-Ruhnau/dp/0941036022

https://www.amazon.com/Light-Fifth-Dimension-Heaven-World/dp/B000JJXH5M

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/religion-by-country

https://maureenstgermain.com/merkaba-meditation/

https://www.amazon.com/Ancient-Wisdom-Revived-Theosophical-Movement/dp/0520039688

https://blavatskytheosophy.com/2014/02/14/the-white-lodge-dare-not-give-out-more-than-humanity-can-put-to-use/

https://julesevans.medium.com/madame-blavatsky-and-the-perils-of-mass-occultism-333fcd765c43

https://theosophicalsociety.org.au/highlights/theosophy-and-the-golden-dawn

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Germain_(Theosophy)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%22I_AM%22_Activity

https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Supernatural/dp/1781808317

https://www.salon.com/1999/11/03/aliens_3/

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Self-Expression is a Form of Self-Care

Self-Expression is a Form of Self-Care

Self-expression is a form of self-care. Especially for creatives. Expressing our feelings, our truth of the moment—even if we know it will change minutes or hours or days from now—is also a form of self-care. And the expression of our feelings has often been denied (outside of a therapist’s office) for trauma survivors.

“I can’t share that!” we think. “It will make people feel bad/guilty/angry and they won’t love me anymore.”

That’s really what it comes down to: trauma survivors know from long experience that expressing what we really think and feel will result in pain and rejection.

So we stuff it down. Some of us become experts at stuffing our thoughts and feelings. We become so good at it that we don’t even know we’re doing it…until everything we’ve stuffed explodes and results in body pain, headaches, stomachaches, insomnia, nightmares, asthma, anxiety, PTSD symptoms, depression, overwhelm, isolation, or shutdown.

I’ve had three severe fibromyalgia flares in as many weeks and while I could blame stress and the abrupt weather changes of late, part of it is certainly that I’ve not expressed what I’ve felt for fear of making others upset.

And so today I’m sharing how I feel. Not to elicit apologies in a vague, passive-aggressive manner, but to simply give expression to how I feel. Because it’s a form of self-care. And because in the expression, I can find healing.

How is coaching different from therapy?

How is coaching different from therapy?

While I am a formal mental health counselor and have been trained in various forms of psychotherapy, I am not a licensed therapist and I do not practice therapy.

Here’s how I see the difference:

A therapist helps a person heal their present by addressing what led them to this point (e.g.: trauma, core beliefs, emotional avoidance, etc.). Especially in clinical settings, it requires a “problem/ solution with measurable progress” paradigm. It is the surgery of the psyche, going after the root of the issue.

A coach helps a person change their present by addressing their thoughts, beliefs, and actions in the present moment and moving forward. It can operate as both problem/solution and also support/ celebration/accountability. This is the physical therapy of the psyche.

A healer helps a person change their present by addressing their energetic and physical health in the moment and moving forward. This is the medicine of the psyche.

While there are some overlaps, they largely have their own areas of focus.

When I’m coaching, we honor the past and acknowledge that it has an impact, sometimes profound. But we don’t go digging for it. We don’t go back to the past to try to heal it. That’s for therapy, which I usually recommend be trauma-informed.

Octobers

Octobers

I feel like I’m not here.

But my body is.
The pain roaring beneath my skin, slicing through  my organs, curdling in my stomach remind me that my body is here.

My body remembers Octobers past.
My grandfather’s birthday.
My father’s birthday.
My birthday.

Every one a reminder that I was seen at various times as an object, a servant, a plaything, daddy’s good little girl, the subject of grandpa’s “dirty old man” fantasies, a dress-up doll, a mistake, a burden, a problem, a cause of death.

None of these are me.
Growing up, no one saw ME.

Today I feel like I’m not here.
Maybe I don’t see me either.
Not today.

This is what #depression sometimes looks like.

A heavy blanket over the brightness of my soul, threatening to smother it.

And though I know it can’t, I feel my light dim anyway.

Depression crawls into my dark thoughts and whispers, “No one cares. You’ll never be missed. You’re not contributing anything anyone wants. Why bother?”

Depression slows my thinking, my reactions, my body, my energy, until I can’t do anything other than the basic necessities and sometimes not even those.

Sometimes it brings along its cousins, anger and anxiety, to play in the empty spaces previously occupied by confidence and self-esteem.

Depression brings reinforcements while telling me I am alone.

It’s funny. I think the truth is the opposite.

But I can’t feel that right now.

I will again. Depression always leaves.

Until it accepts its defeat, I have no choice but to lay low like a bird in molt.

My old feathers have taken a beating. The new ones will be glorious, at least until they too are battle-scarred and depression peeks around the corner to see if I’m ready to go again.

I don’t want sympathy.
Or pity.

I don’t want hugs.

And all of the “good vibes only” people can take their vibes and put them where the sun doesn’t shine (unless they’re practicing perineum sunning).

I am not strong because I defeat depression, year after year, and especially most Octobers.

I am strong because I am willing to engage with it again and again.

I am strong because I often engage with it publicly.

I am strong because I see the value in even the most “negative” emotions and I am willing to hear what they have to say.

I know I am strong
but I don’t feel like it right now.

I don’t feel like I’m really here.
But my body is.
It remembers.
It hurts.

And it will house and protect my molting self until I’m ready to fly again.

What My Body Was Really Telling Me

What My Body Was Really Telling Me

If you were to really, truly listen to your body, what would it be telling you?

For months now, I was pretty sure my body was telling me to sleep for a week or more. I heard my body say it was tired, really tired, all the time, but I didn’t really LISTEN.

It was while I was brushing my teeth a couple of nights ago that I was bemoaning my body to any guides who were listening. A recent joint dysfunction diagnosis combined with injury in that area and pain that was easily a 10 on the pain scale had me feeling like my body was falling apart or betraying me. And I said as much.

In response, Michael popped in and countered my complaints with this gem: “Your body is a finely tuned instrument. It will tell you what you need to know and when to seek help. Your job is to listen carefully to its messages.”

Well, I thought, that’s not super helpful when I don’t understand the messages I’m receiving. But I decided to try again.

Overwhelmingly, I heard my body say it was tired. Exhausted. Even all of my self–care wasn’t helping.

And then I remembered telling my partner several times that I was waking up more tired than I was when I went to sleep. I sleep with a CPAP and my AHI has been below 2, so I know it’s not apnea (always a concern with waking up more tired).

I’ve also recently been sleeping with my smartwatch on (🚫🍎) at the suggestion of my guides and it tracks my sleep. So I started looking into the statistics.

Lo and behold, I’ve been getting an average of less than 20 minutes of deep sleep each night for the past two weeks. Deep sleep is the restorative sleep when healing happens.

Well, no wonder my body says it’s exhausted.

I’d already increased the amount of magnesium I take at night, recommended by my doctor to help with the joint dysfunction/injury and related inflammation and muscle knots. I was GETTING to sleep well enough, but I often woke with night sweats or pain in my feet or for no obvious reason at all.

I’d chalked all of this up to fibromyalgia or menopause or dehydration or some combination of all three, and other than continuing to try to drink more despite not being thirsty, I figured I’d just have to live with it.

But reading an article in the journal Sleep about the effect of deep sleep deprivation on hormones revealed that in a study published in 2019, sleep deprivation also sent hormones into chaos, including vasopressin, which controls the body’s hydration levels and moderates the feeling of thirst.

Could my struggle to drink enough water be physiological? And could it be caused by sleep issues?

I also know about my body that I LOVE having something heavy over my upper arms and shoulders when I sleep. I’d been using a second blanket over my sheet and regular blanket. But I kept getting an intuitive ping about using my weighted blanket.

So, last night I arranged my regular blanket down at the foot of the bed, spread out my weighted blanket instead, and slept with just that and a sheet. There’s no padding in my weighted blanket; it’s just two layers of cotton with glass beads in between. It’s heavy (20#) but not particularly warm.

I also achieved my hydration goal yesterday for the first time in a long time (many months), drinking 85oz of uncaffeinated, calorie-free liquid (mostly water).

The net effect was that I had to get up three times to use the bathroom, but I got right back to sleep easily. And when I checked my sleep statistics this morning, an astonishing 81% of my sleep was in deep sleep!

I’m still tired today, but my body is more relaxed than it’s been in months, and I can feel in my body that I’m on the right track to better health.

For the first time in six months, I feel hopeful about my physical health. Other than my hip joint issue, all of the other tests to get to the bottom of my symptoms (chief among them being severe fatigue) were normal. My doctors say I’m fine. But my body says it’s so very, very tired. And I finally listened.

The Connection Between Trauma, Body Pain, and Authenticity

The Connection Between Trauma, Body Pain, and Authenticity

We know for a fact that animals naturally and instinctively shake off their stress. Whether or not they do it while singing Taylor Swift’s Shake It Off is another matter. We also know for a fact that humans don’t do this consciously. We’re more likely to engage in therapy of the alcohol, retail, or epicurean kind.

That physical shaking is a signal from the brain’s limbic system (responsible for the fight/flight/freeze response) that the threat has passed and the nervous system can return to pre-stress levels. In humans, when the limbic system takes over, the prefrontal cortex can go offline temporarily, making it impossible to think our way out of the situation.

We also know from the Law of Conservation of Energy (also the First Law of Thermodynamics) that energy can neither be created nor destroyed, only transformed. So that stress energy we feel? It has to go somewhere. And if it isn’t transformed into movement or heat, as in shaking, then it continues to reside in the body.

This is one part of the research that has led us to understand that trauma lives on in the body, both in cellular memory and changes to how cell DNA is read, and in how chronic stress can (and often does) result in medical conditions and illnesses years and even decades later.

For survivors of trauma or anyone who can get triggered (meaning a current situation triggers a past traumatic, terrifying, or overwhelming event), this is especially applicable. We also know from studying trauma that when a person’s past trauma is triggered, their brain (as seen in functional MRI scans) reacts to the trigger and the resulting recall of trauma the same way as if the trauma was occurring in the present moment. Consequently, the limbic system takes over with its fight/flight/freeze response (there is also a fawn response in some situations) to the trigger and doesn’t shake it off when the perceived threat from the trigger has passed.

One of the ways that energy gets stored is in muscle tension. Think about it: trauma survivors are often hypervigilant, waiting for the next threat to come, the next shoe to drop (given that there may be an infinite number of shoes). Repeated and chronic muscle tension can lead to myofascial pain syndrome. And over time, some doctors believe that myofascial pain syndrome may lead to fibromyalgia.

It’s no secret that a very high percentage of people with fibromyalgia are also survivors of some form of trauma, whether abuse or assault by another person or a particularly challenging illness or medical condition. For me, it’s a bit of both: years of abuse and then an especially challenging pregnancy ending in a stillbirth. The pain began sometime during or immediately after the pregnancy and didn’t let up. After a battery of tests and everything else was ruled out, fibromyalgia was the diagnosis.

I’ve noticed in the fourteen years since that diagnosis that my pain is worse, not after physical exertion, but after emotional highs or lows. After stress. Remember too that even exciting and fun events can be interpreted by the body as stress. Stress itself is not the problem. Stress is a part of life. But the combination of triggers, the limbic system takeover, muscle tension, and not shaking off the stress can create a vicious cycle in which the stress response can beget another stress response.

And that’s where I find myself as I write this: nearly a week into a fibromyalgia flare and then I was triggered yesterday. It was a minor trigger, but a trigger all the same. One in which I was back in the past for a brief period, not knowing if I could trust anyone, not really knowing that I could trust the people I was with (because temporary prefrontal cortex shutdown), and then all those original emotions and sensations from the original trauma running free in my body and brain with no place to go. And because I was already in significant pain from the flare, my options for shaking it off were limited.

One of my active triggers is sharing my thoughts, feelings, and ideas, as well as messages from my guides, and then experiencing retribution—immediately or delayed—in the form of verbal abuse, public humiliation, and occasionally physical assault. I grew up with this. As both a child and an adult, I experienced this repeatedly from my nuclear family.

So as I begin to regularly share my thoughts, feelings, and ideas, as well as messages from my guides, is it any wonder that my physical response to posting and commenting is to tense my muscles and wait for what my child parts consider inevitable punishment for speaking out?

And yet, I will continue to share because I know some people need to hear this. And I will continue to find ways to shake off the stress energy and remind myself that the threat is over. Some singing might be involved. Some energy might be transformed into writing articles like this one. In any event, the mistreatment by people I grew up with needs to stay in the past where it belongs.

This begs the question: how can that mistreatment stay in the past where it belongs?

It’s clear to me that a child part of me was what was triggered. That child part is what holds the pain around retribution for my speaking up. (According to Internal Family Systems therapy, we all have parts and it’s a normal, natural part of being human.) And since it is a child part, that part can be reparented. The adult, empowered part of me knows what I needed back then (love, acceptance, value, voice, belonging), and I can give it to this child part.

Back when I was a child, I had precious few resources. My guides were my biggest resource. I knew of no relatives who would believe me over my parents. My parents were active in my school and friends with my teachers and principal. My father was close with law enforcement.

When trauma happens, children are known to do three things: 1) in the absence of clear and specific explanations by authority figures, they believe they are the cause; 2) they make rules about the trauma and apply them throughout their lives (e.g.: “Everyone will react as my parents did.”); and 3) the powerlessness and limited options they experience are stored along with the traumatic memory, such that when the trauma is triggered, the now-adult still feels powerless and with limited options.

Retraining the brain takes practice and repeated, supported experiences under safe conditions to learn that 1) the child is almost never the cause of their trauma; 2) the rules created only applied to that situation and that time; and 3) the adult has far greater resources than the child did. Trauma-informed coaching and/or therapy can significantly help with this, and connection with your own guidance is a priceless and profound resource.

And so I end with this: My voice matters. My experience is that I often help when I speak up or speak out. I was not the cause of the mistreatment from the people I grew up with. I have vast resources now. I have people in my life who support who I am and what I do. People who attack me because of what I say or share are acting out their own issues, which have nothing to do with me. I share how I experience the world in the hopes that it will benefit others. I can and do shake off My experience is my experience and that’s all it needs to be. I too continue to move from silenced and squashed to vocal and free.

 

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