I don’t like anxiety. I’m not a big fan of apprehension, angst, and a bunch of other words that start with A. Maybe it’s because I grew up with it as a constant, or maybe it’s from the PTSD, or maybe it’s the genetic predisposition I have to OCD (an anxiety disorder), but it’s a part of my life.
And perhaps the worst anxiety is that of anticipation, and not in a fun way.
When I was a teenager (back in the age of the dinosaurs, according to my teen sons), I had a love/hate relationship with rollercoasters. I loved them after the fact, when I’d had fun, and just as importantly, walked away without puking, fainting, peeing myself, or getting injured.
And they were fun! I have always loved getting myself dizzy and feeling changing G-forces. But I hated the waiting. And one time, while I was in a very long line for the new Demon rollercoaster at what was then Marriott’s Great America in Santa Clara, California, it struck me that the anxiety I felt while in line was far worse than any anxiety about the ride itself. Because I didn’t know exactly what would happen this time.Waiting for the unknown is harder than living the unknown. Click To Tweet
I don’t even like anxiety or angst in TV shows. TV producers can kill off a favorite character (sometimes more than once *side-eyes Supernatural*) and the audience doesn’t always know if they’ll return or not. (Yes, everyone returns at some point on Supernatural.) I don’t like it when there’s angst between characters who care for each other. So what do I do? I cheat. I look ahead to see if said character is in a future episode description, or I research to see if the internet has info on how long the actor’s contract is in effect, or I follow whoever I’m interested in on social media, because at least I know they’re alive and well as the actor, even if not the character.
But I also miss out on the emotions that are meant to be evoked by the show.
I write fiction. I very intentionally play with people’s emotions through my characters. But I don’t want to get on the ride of someone else’s story?
Earlier today, I had a scheduled call with my coach, Teresa Romain. I told her how I didn’t want to feel things that were unpleasant, that my body was giving me all these signs of anxiety and overwhelm, given the COVID-19 pandemic, but I wasn’t feeling it in my head. My head was telling me I was fine. My head was off with my guides, seeing the very broad picture where we (our essences) are all fine, and had left the Here and Now.
In other words, I was doing that thing where the actors (our essences) are alive and well, even if we have to wait to see what’s going to happen to the characters (our bodies).
Your heart has to be open, Teresa told me, to live fully.
I have to be willing to feel the pain, the sorrow, the grief, the anxiety. Because that’s part of life too. That’s part of living in a physical world. That’s why we incarnate in the first place.
Part of me really doesn’t want to go there. I’d rather sleep or read or binge-watch mindless shows or do all the home improvement projects our 102-year-old house needs. But that’s not living.
My coach could see through the chaos in my mind and find the path into and through it. This is why coaches and therapists are so helpful: they aren’t in the chaos, so they have better perspective.
And our soul guides are the ultimate coaches.
I’ve had a belief for most of my life that I wouldn’t live past age 65, which means I’d have just over a dozen years left to experience everything I want to experience. Today, my primary guide, Dresden, said, “If you had made the effort to bother asking me if you were still on that trajectory of living a shortened lifespan, I would have told you that ever since you began EMDR, it has completely changed.”
Our guides can’t predict the future; there are too many variables and we all have free will. But they can see what will happen if we don’t make any changes. Or what can happen if we make that difficult but necessary change to fully embrace all of life, connected to our essence and our guides, knowing that even in a world that at the moment seems filled with disease and disaster, we are fine, and loved, and we matter.
Are guides and angels (or is God) causing the current novel coronavirus and Covid-19 in order to get our attention or to punish us?
I’ve been asked this question now four times in the past two days. The answer is an unequivocal NO.
This is not a divine punishment, nor is it a wakeup call because we haven’t been paying attention. This is a natural extension of living in a physical world that supports replication and mutation of genetic material. It is no different, spiritually, from any other disease-causing pathogen.
Here’s where you can go with the challenges created by the current pandemic: you can really begin to see that we are all connected. You can see that what each one of us does has a ripple effect on so many others. And we get to choose if that ripple is one of disease risk or of kindness and compassion. You can acknowledge your mortality and that of everyone else, and be the best version of yourself that you know how to be in this moment.
You can do all you can with what you have from where you are.Each one of us has a ripple effect on so many others. And we get to choose if that ripple is one of disease risk or of kindness and compassion. Click To Tweet
You can practice physical distancing, but remain social via any of the many apps available now to connect us, whether Zoom, FaceTime (if you’re an Apple user), social media, Marco Polo, Skype, etc. By reaching out to others, you also bring yourself out of the internal isolation and thought-spiraling that can make you feel worse.
Are our guides sitting around on their thumbs while this is going on? While people are getting sick and dying?
No. They want very much to remind you that you are a spark of Source energy, that you matter to the world, and that you are far more powerful than you think you are. They want to support and encourage you to grow and learn and experience. And they are having a difficult time being heard above all the fear and anxiety and constant input from the media.
How can you get their message?
Limit your consumption of the media, both in terms of time and the reputation of the source. Aim for the least biased sources, with the least amount of hype. Public radio and public television are more likely to give you that than commercial broadcasting.
Make time to be. Whether in silence or yoga or meditation or prayer, take some time to be still and silent and with yourself. Open yourself to the “still, small voice.”
Stay in the moment. If your mind races off to some other place or time, bring it back gently and let those thoughts and feelings go.
Breathe. Slow and easy, relaxed and comfortable.
If you are someone who likes or is open to guided imagery, I’ve uploaded two calming meditations on Soul Guides’ new YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQQgOCRiQAlJkrdQxkMjyIQ
There are also two videos there (with more to come) on shifting your energy away from anxiety and toward gratitude and love.
Beware those who spread more fear
I’ve also seen warnings from spiritually-inclined people that we should prepare for apocalyptic-like failures, such as a global internet or power blackout or fuel scarcity or long-term food (and toilet paper) shortages.
No. This is nothing more than buying into fear and creating more panic. The real threat is overwhelming the capacity and capabilities of hospitals. No zombies. No end-of-times.
Just another opportunity for you to center and ground yourself, connect with yourself and your guides, and be the gift you are to this world.
I’ve been seeing a lot of conscious channelers* lately giving New Year’s predictions for…I’m not sure. Their audience? The world? The universe?
“Hear what your angels have predicted for the coming year!” they all proclaim. And that honestly didn’t make sense to me, knowing what I know about free will, and how much my guides and others’ guides with whom I’ve spoken have stressed the importance of free will.
The future, they say, is never absolute. There is no way to predict a future with any certainty, because every choice you make, every choice those around you make, alters possible futures.There is no way to predict a future with any certainty, because every choice you make, every choice those around you make, alters possible futures. Click To Tweet
Imagine you are rafting along a river. You had the intention, when you started, of rafting to a pleasant picnic spot, having lunch, and then continuing downstream until you get to a beach, where friends are waiting with a vehicle. But along the way, you see something interesting that you want to check out, and that means taking a left at the fork in the river instead of a right. You’ve now changed the future you had planned. And depending on whether you have mobile phone reception, and whether or not your phone is water-resistant, and whether or not you call your friends on the beach to let them know you’re taking a different direction, you may have altered your friends’ future too.
But, I thought, maybe I’m missing something. I never actually asked my guides if they had predictions for the coming year. And since assuming things without asking them has historically gotten me into plenty of trouble, I figured I’d ask them.
“So, any predictions for the coming year?”
“Which new year do you mean,” Dresden asked. “The Jewish new year? Chinese new year? Zoroastrian and Baha’i new year? Islamic new year?”
“Um…secular?” I said. “I think. Does it make a difference? I live in the United States, but I don’t presume that everyone reading this does.”
“Okay,” Dresden said. “Which calendar? Gregorian? Julian? Hebrew? Lunar?”
“And which culture?” Dresden continued. “Which society? Please be more specific with your request.”
“The calendar,” Michael broke in, “is an inefficient method of marking time that the human mind can parse. Holidays are for your benefit, not ours.”
“Inefficient?” I said. “I’d say it works pretty well, all things considered. Except for when I double-book myself. Or when I can’t remember what day it is.”
“What do you gain by placing more significance on one day of the year than on any other day?” Michael asked.
“Just that we’re all on the same page, I guess. Except since there are numerous new years, I guess we’re really not.”
“There really is no such thing as a new year,” Dresden observed. “While incarnated, you exist within space and time, but back Home, we are outside of it. Really, there is only Here and Now.”
“I’m not sure how helpful that is,” I replied.
“And global predictions are useless on an individual level, especially when humans won’t listen,” Michael added.
“Maybe if we knew what we could look forward to—or avoid—we might make different choices,” I said.
“We can show you patterns,” Dresden said. “Especially on an individual level, we can point out what is likely to happen if you continue to follow the same patterns and make choices along those patterns.”
“What about just giving us an idea of what might happen with the 2020 US election if we follow the same patterns?”
“Those patterns are changing,” Michael said. “They’ve been changing for a while.”
“So no predictions?” I asked.
“I predict you won’t be asking us this question again,” Dresden said.
*Conscious channelers are people who channel soul guides (spirit guides, angels, animal guides, guardians, etc.) while still being conscious as they channel. While they may not remember the content of what they’ve channeled (especially if it’s for someone else), they maintain full control over their mind and body.
Time to reconnect
The gentle whispers
Soft as caresses
Loved and lovable
No need to
It will all happen
As it should
Must be on
What I can do
Not who sees it
The goal is Connection
For those who wish it
And it cannot be forced
Where it is
“I have a relationship with God, and I talk to God all the time. Do I still need to connect and develop a relationship with my soul guides?”
The short answer: “That depends.” Let’s talk about definitions. And I’m asking my soul guides to chime in here, so a good part of what I’m writing is from them.
A relationship is a give-and-take. An interaction. If you consider reading from a book—especially one that has been through numerous translations and been edited for political purposes—the “give” part of the relationship, that is like claiming to be content with a tiny appetizer when you’re starving. Your soul guides can offer you so much more.
Deriving purpose and inspiration and empowerment from such writings is certainly encouraged. It’s simply incomplete.
Now, how are you defining “God” in your relationship with God?
This is important because how your soul guides understand the Source of All is often not the same as how religious faiths teach about God. Religion often teaches a conditional love from God: follow the teachings of your religious faith or else you will be punished for eternity. Or: declare your fealty to a first-centry rabbi and condemn all who do not, or you will suffer the same fate as the heathens. Or: If you do not follow all of God’s commandments to the letter, you will be punished, perhaps with illness or death or the death of one close to you. Religion too often teaches reward and punishment.
This is inaccurate.
Many (but not all) religions also teach that there is a duality when it comes to God: a source of good and a source of evil. This is not so. There is only one Source.
When faith leaders teach that any spiritual teachings that do not come from them—or their interpretation of God’s message—are from a source of evil, they are teaching fear. They are teaching you to fear your soul guides so that you will look to your faith leaders for interpretation and understanding. This keeps your leaders in control, in power.
The Source of All is not, and never was, about power. The Source of All is love.
It’s that simple.
So if your relationship with God involves threats, punishment, warnings, or any conditions, it is not a relationship with God.
On the other hand, you may well have a relationship that you can’t quite understand, can’t quite describe, but it involves your intuition or a “still, small voice,” or an inner knowing that encourages, inspires, forgives, loves, and uplifts you, and you call the source of that “God.” There is no need to change this unless you want to.
Can you have a fulfilling, interactive, healthy relationship with God without knowing anything about your soul guides? Yes.
Do soul guides—and specifically those soul guides many would call angels—interact with people on behalf of Source? Yes.
Can that be considered God communicating with people? Yes.
Could people also see that as a somewhat more knowable entity communicating with you on behalf of a loving Source that is too infinite for the human mind to comprehend? Yes.
Could people also see that as a spark of the Divine appearing in an understandable form (such as a human or animal or color or scent) and interacting with them? Yes.
Your soul guides’ (angels, spirit guides, animal guides, ancestors, spirits) sole purpose is to help you navigate this lifetime by reminding you of who you truly are (a divine spirit being) and what you’re here to experience, and to do so through guidance, inspiration, encouragement, comfort, humor, healing, friendship, and love.
It’s entirely up to you if you want to know your guides and continue to have a loving relationship with God. Your guides do not need to be acknowledged personally. They have no egos. You’re not going to hurt their feelings.
For some, “God” conjures up too many painful memories, often in a religious context (remember: punishment, threat, fear), and for these people who still want that guidance, who want that relationship without all the baggage that can come with “God,” your soul guides can definitely help with that. Religion is a human construct. Guides do not follow any particular religion.
Will your soul guides use religious language if that is what most resonates with you? Absolutely.
Will they use it if it triggers painful memories? Definitely not.
And for those who fear that soul guides are not from God, that they are tempting you to commit sin and risk being punished, please remember: there is only one Source. And that Source is love.
“But shouldn’t a real psychic or spiritual coach offer their gifts for free?”
I hear this a lot, and mostly from religious folks.
Let’s talk about money. Very few want to, but money is necessary in our lives. It’s interwoven with happiness, safety, opportunity, personal growth, business, charity, etc.
This idea that psychics, whether we’re talking to your guides, or those who have passed, or helping you gain clarity on your life choices, should do what we do for free because it’s a gift from God, is all too common.
And it’s wrong. Here’s why.
We are all psychic. We all have this gift, even though not everyone is as practiced as others. It’s not a gift that some special people have and others don’t. It’s literally your birthright. This is why I teach my clients how to develop their own relationships with their guides. Eventually, they won’t need me. They’ll connect with their guides on their own.
Perhaps you’re familiar with the adage, “Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” (Anne Isabella Thackeray Ritchie, loosely quoted from Mrs. Dymond, 1885.) In this, I’m not offering my clients fish to eat. I’m teaching them how to fish on their own.
Money is simply a tool we use to exchange life energy. You’re not paying a real psychic for their gifts. You’re paying them for their time and effort—their life energy. For every hour that I spend on a Zoom call with a client, I put in an additional 30-60 minutes prepping for that call. And that doesn’t even touch on things like overhead and the work I need to do on myself so that I can be open and present and connected for my clients.
Some may want to argue that you’re paying for a psychic’s time, energy, and their experience and expertise channeling guides or spirits, and therefore paying them for a talent that not everyone can use at the moment. To them, I offer this: every other expression of expertise and experience, or even talent, is something we pay for without questioning it. We pay for medical advice, legal services, personal care services, financial services. We pay for the opportunity to see talented athletes play sports. We pay (through advertising or subscriptions or tickets) to watch actors portray characters in fictional stories on screens or stages. We pay clergy for their spiritual services. We pay musicians for the opportunity to listen to their music. Real psychics (and I’ll get to that real part in a moment) are no different.
When people bring God into the argument
But, Sheyna, some say, this is a gift from God, so it should be given freely!
No. Not any more than what some would also call a God-given gift for math or athleticism or law or medicine or engineering or music or art. Those are also gifts.
But, Sheyna, some add, one shouldn’t make money off of a spiritual gift! God doesn’t want that!
First, with all due respect, they don’t speak for God. The Christian Bible is not my religious text. And the Hebrew bible (the Tanakh) is not the final say in Judaism, either. We have all sorts of interpretations and laws developed over the past few thousand years.
Second, for those who insist on bringing God into this, why would God want me to starve? Or lose my home? Because the reality is, if I’m spending a lot of my time teaching others how to connect with their guides, that’s time I don’t have to do any other work for which I ought to be paid. It’s time I don’t have to write my books.
Remember, this is an exchange of life energy. It’s not so much about gift or talent or religious rules about how we’re supposed to use these abilities (that we all have).
Now, back to that issue of real psychics. There are, unfortunately, people out there who want to make a quick buck, and who prey on others who are grieving or are feeling hopeless and looking for some way out of the pain. I’ll write more in another post specifically about how to tell the difference between these people and those who are authentically wanting to help and heal, but in a nutshell, you need to pay attention to two things in particular:
- What is their intention? Are they providing a service you want, or are they telling you what you need and then compelling you to pay for it? Are they taking advantage of pain in your life? Are they pressuring you?
- What’s your gut feeling? Your own intuition? Even if you think their intention is authentic, they may not be the right fit for you. Trust your own inner knowing before you trust what someone else tells you, even if they say (or especially if they say) they can see something you can’t that needs to be fixed for a cost.
This post may make some people angry, and they’ll be unequivocally certain that psychics should not be compensated for the life energy they’re giving their clients. My response to those who are angry? Don’t hire one. Don’t exchange your life energy for theirs. And let everyone else make their own decisions, trusting their own intuition and guidance.
Perhaps more than any other question I’m asked, people want to know, “What’s my guide’s name?”
For us as humans, names are a key part of our identities. It’s one of the reasons why it’s so important to use chosen names, whether it’s someone who has transitioned, someone who wants to distance themselves from their past identity, or any other reason. Pet guardians will often say that when they welcome a new animal into their family, they change the animal’s name because the name they had didn’t fit their personality.
Names reflect our energy and who we are.
As such, it’s normal and natural to want our guides to have names too. In a future post, I’ll talk about names back Home (a.k.a. in the ether, Heaven, etc.), but for now, I’m keeping it to the three-dimensional, physical life here on earth. Some guides will give you a name right away. Some won’t. Some will hold out for years. Some will ask you to name them. These are all valid.
Case in point:
By the time I was in junior high school, I was aware of three guides with very discernably different energy who were frequent flyers in my headspace. I didn’t really need names for them, because I could tell who was whom simply by how they felt. And how they made me feel. Generally, they didn’t all talk to me at once, and I didn’t tell anyone else about them, so names were unnecessary.
But then early in high school, I started writing down what they said, and I invited them to conference with me. This took several months of learning how to focus and keep the connection open. I began writing in a journal, dividing each page into four columns: one for me, and one each for the three guides. And since I didn’t have names, I very creatively called them Voice A, Voice B, and Voice C.
Voice A was the (much) more powerful voice. There was an assurance about him that had me feeling completely and utterly safe in his presence, as well as a steady power, as if he was capable of so much more than the tiny fraction he was sharing with me. He was both reassuring and terrifying. When he was around, my heart beat out of rhythm, I had a feeling of electricity sparking all over my skin, and the top of my head felt like it was somehow open and unlimited. So I gave him the Voice A designation because I thought putting him first might be least likely to make him upset with me.
Voice B was the voice I heard most often, many times a day. Our conversations had a banter-like quality, and yet somehow, even as we teased each other, he always made me feel better about myself. And in the blink of an eye, he could turn a conversation about nothing at all into a jaw-dropping new awareness about myself and my place in the world.
Voice C taught me how to make up songs, how to sing about chores I had to do, how to turn even the most mundane into something creative and joyous.
I began to tell my best friend about these conversations, and she asked why I didn’t give them names. She could actually tell when Voice A was around, even if I didn’t say anything, and she thought a proper name was less insulting than “Voice A.” I told her I thought it would be insulting to give them names and they should tell me their own names.
I asked Voice A. He told me his name was irrelevant, and to focus on what he had to say instead of who he was. (This, of course, only made me more curious, but he wouldn’t budge, and I didn’t want to piss him off.) So my friend named him Ahimsa (Sanskrit for non-violence and respect for all life). He didn’t argue or correct it for over 15 years. In 1999, when I was in a spiritual crisis, not knowing what to believe or whom to trust, he showed up and finally told me his name was Michael. He shared a few other things I won’t get into here, but it eliminated any doubts I had about him. While the name Ahimsa was lovely, it was always clearly an alias. The name Michael fit.
Of course then I freaked out over who he was. “You mean the Michael?” Had he shared his name with me 15 years earlier, my freak-out would have been even more severe. He was right not to tell me back then.
I asked Voice B for a name. He said he couldn’t give me his real name, but I should choose a name to call him by. I asked him to choose one. He refused, saying it didn’t matter. I argued back saying it mattered a lot. Then I asked him if he had any idea how many possible names existed in the world, and could he please, for the love of all that’s good in the world, at least narrow it down? His response? “Preferably something you can pronounce.”
I gave him the silent treatment and refused to talk with him until he gave me a name. (Not one of my finer moments when dealing with guides.) Eventually, he relented, and while I was at work one day, cutting open a box, he said, “Use that.” An unusual glow on the box caught my eye, as if the city name in the return address was backlit: Dresden. Much later, when I asked him why he chose that, he said he liked the imagery of coming back into wholeness after complete destruction. Whether he meant that for himself or me, he’s never said. It might be a bit of both.
Voice C was easy. I asked her, and she said she liked musical names. I listed a few: Harmony, Melody, Lyric, Allegra. “I like Melody,” she said. And that was that.
Many years later, Dresden told me that had he shared the name I knew him by back Home, I might have recognized it. I’ve already remembered pieces of several past lives, at least two of which were with him, and he was concerned that knowing his real name might trigger further memories. My focus, he maintains, is this lifetime. Here and now. Getting sidetracked by past lives could distract me from what I’m here to do and experience.
Other people with whom I’ve worked have had a mixture: some guides offer names right away. Some people are fine choosing a name that is meaningful to them and the part that their guide plays in their life. Sometimes the names people choose for their guides are significant and powerful.
My refusal to choose names for my guides says nothing about them, and a lot about my own issues with authority and my past behaviors around wanting to please those in power. In reality, a guide is not going to get angry because of a name, nor are they going to be slighted if they’re last on a list instead of first. Feeling insulted or indignant is all ego, all comparison and whether one measures up. Guides are spirit, not ego.
Just as guides’ names aren’t a constant, fixed thing, their presentation—how they present themselves to you in any sort of visual—isn’t either. We’ll talk about that another time.