Octobers
I feel like I'm not here. But my body is.The pain roaring beneath my skin, slicing through my organs, curdling in my stomach remind me that my body is here. My body remembers Octobers past.My grandfather's birthday.My father's birthday.My birthday. Every one a...
What My Body Was Really Telling Me
If you were to really, truly listen to your body, what would it be telling you?For months now, I was pretty sure my body was telling me to sleep for a week or more. I heard my body say it was tired, really tired, all the time, but I didn't really LISTEN. It was while...
The Connection Between Trauma, Body Pain, and Authenticity
We know for a fact that animals naturally and instinctively shake off their stress. Whether or not they do it while singing Taylor Swift’s Shake It Off is another matter. We also know for a fact that humans don’t do this consciously. We’re more likely to engage in therapy of the alcohol, retail, or epicurean kind. That physical shaking is a signal from the brain’s limbic system (responsible for the fight/flight/freeze response) that the threat has passed and the nervous system can return to pre-stress levels. In humans, when the limbic system takes over, the prefrontal cortex can go offline temporarily, making it impossible to think our way out of the situation.
There’s No One-Size-Fits-All Method to Connecting with Guidance—Especially When it Comes to Trauma
t would be great if connecting with our soul guides was as easy as plugging in an electrical appliance or adding a new mouse to your computer. Plug-and-play guides. I’ll recommend that to my guides and see if they can run that up the chain. “It...
Cuomo Resignation Can Be a Trauma Trigger
Andrew Cuomo has resigned as governor of New York.Whatever you feel about this is valid. He is a complex human being. He held a great deal of power. He used some of his power to harm others irreparably. He used some of his power to lead. Most importantly, this news is...
Can You Always Choose Your Feelings?
To all the people who keep insisting that you always get to choose what you feel: This is NOT true for trauma survivors OR people coping with health issues OR people grieving the loss of a loved one. PTSD is not a choice. Depression is not a choice. Anxiety is not a...
Is Uninvited Criticism the Enemy—or Is It Us?
ental blocks. Distorted thinking. Cognitive distortions. Stinkin’ thinkin’. There are a lot of names for it, but these are all ways to refer to a pattern of inaccurate thoughts or beliefs that keep us stuck and unable to heal old wounds and trauma....
Guides Can Be a Source of Support
I’ve talked this week about trauma, especially unsupported trauma. This is where an event or situation takes place that overwhelms a person’s nervous system (their fight/flight/freeze/fawn response gets stuck in the “on” position), their brain senses a threat to them,...
What “living the life you’ve always wanted” really means
I say that I’m about helping people to live the life they’ve always wanted, the life that they were taught they couldn’t have or didn’t deserve. Let’s talk about what that means. And what it doesn’t. It doesn’t mean that all your wishes will come true or that your...
Set in Motion
SET IN MOTIONThis is how everything changed.This is how a life was saved.This is my story.Trigger warning for a brief mention of past suicidal intention.Also, bonus content in the last minute.https://youtu.be/MGMtIuwkXU0







